Why Voice Messages Beat Texting When You're Dating
Updated: 4 days ago
Voice messages make a conversation feel more personal and intimate than text, and very few guys use them. Reply with one whenever she sends you one, keep it relaxed and fun, and aim for around 20 to 45 seconds.
If she sends you a voice message, send one back.
Why voice messages work in dating
Voice messages are one of the most underrated tools in dating. Girls love them because they feel more personal and intimate than a block of text. Replying with your voice also shows you have the confidence to do it and that you're a good conversationalist.
How to sound relaxed and fun
It can feel a bit nerve-wracking at first. A few things help:
Think about what you want to say, but don't over-plan or over-rehearse it.
Keep the tone relaxed, easy-going and fun.
Actually smile while you record and try to make yourself laugh. It changes your tone of voice.
In the video I give an example: a quick, smiling update about a good day with a big gym session and a steak at my favourite steak place, then simply asking how her day was. Nothing clever, just warm and natural.
When to text and when to talk
Not every message needs to be a voice note. You can still text. Save voice messages for the longer things that would take a while to type out.
How long should a voice message be?
Don't send tediously long messages that take ages to listen to. Between 20 and 45 seconds is the sweet spot. Just moved her from the app to WhatsApp? Here's what to text after you get her Instagram or WhatsApp.
Common questions
Should I send a girl voice messages?
Yes, especially if she sends you one first. Voice messages feel more personal than text and show confidence, but mix them with normal texts.
How long should a voice message be when dating?
Around 20 to 45 seconds. Long enough to say something that would take a while to type, short enough that she is happy to listen.
How do I not sound awkward on a voice note?
Think about what you will say without over-rehearsing, and smile while you record. Smiling makes your voice sound more relaxed and fun.
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