Why You Shouldn't Plan the Second Date on the First Date
Updated: 4 days ago
Don't ask for a second date while you're still on the first one. Tease fun things you could do together, then leave it there, and set up the next date afterwards, once she's had some time to think about you.
Tease the future on the date. Plan the future after it.
Why booking date two on date one backfires
When you lock in the next date in the middle of the first one, it comes across as rushed and needy. It also shows her exactly how much you like her, and that takes a lot of the intrigue away.
A little uncertainty works in your favour
As I mention in the video, research has found that women tend to like men more when those men's feelings for them are unclear. So rather than laying all your cards on the table, give her some time and space to wonder about you.
When to ask for a second date instead
On the date, playfully tease things you could do together, without pinning down a day.
Stay present and enjoy the date you're actually on.
Afterwards, give her a bit of time and space.
Then reach out and set up the next date.
When you do set it up, make it a confident invitation rather than a question. Here's how to ask a girl out over text.
Common questions
Should I ask for a second date at the end of the first date?
No. Setting up the next date while you are still on the first one comes across as rushed and needy. Tease future plans instead and arrange the date afterwards.
Is it okay to talk about doing things together in the future?
Yes. Teasing future things to do together is fine and builds excitement, as long as you do not lock in a specific date there and then.
Why give her time before setting up the next date?
It gives her space to wonder about you. Keeping your feelings a little less obvious makes you more intriguing.
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